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This is a question I am asked regularly. The answer is:

Be yourself!

Unless yourself is morose and depressed and then save that until you get to know someone a little better. Be upbeat and positive. If ever there was a time to have an " attitude of gratitude" this is it! Think about the things you like about yourself and your life and mention them. Are you a hard worker who takes pride in their accomplishments? Do you have beautiful healthy kids? Do you love to read? What kind of books? Are you an avid cyclist or tennis player? Proud of the wonderful tomatoes or roses you grew this year? Have family members that you love to spend time with? You want to get across the idea that you are a person who likes yourself and your people. Which doesn't mean you should brag about how great you are but you CAN write about the wonderful things in your life because appreciating what we have always brings us more things to appreciate.

Ask for what you want.

If you are looking for someone who loves to go camping, or likes to go shopping - put it in there. If you have every intention of spending a year living in the Australian outback and want someone who wants to go with you - put it in there. Do you love when your partner cooks for you? Do you want someone to take a ballroom class with you or learn to scuba dive with? Do you want someone who shares your faith or is willing to volunteer at the local soup kitchen? Put it in there! Half of getting what we want in this world is identifying what it is. The other half is working toward getting it. By asking you are beginning the work. Do, however, note that it is not appropriate or necessary to mention how much you want someone who wants to have lots of sex. Ladies if you write that in your profile men will assume you are cheap and easy and you are likely to wind up feeling disrespected. Gentleman if you have no interest in having sex feel free to mention that because that would be different. Otherwise assume women know that you are hoping for that to be a big part of your new relationship.

Talk about the things you enjoy.

Passionate about caterpillars? Write it down. You would be surprised at how many people find bugs super interesting. My sister does and she is delightfully weird. Do you love to play golf? Rescue seals? Water ski? Go to Star Trek conventions? Doesn't matter what it is if it is something that you truly care about. People who are passionate about things are attractive. However be sure not to say you love to do things that you don't. Otherwise you may end up kayaking down a class five river really wishing you had learned to swim or fighting off mosquitos in a tent while listening for bears when you would rather be in a four seasons.

Tell the truth about your height and body type.

I have been on lots of dates with men who said they were 5'9" who apparently meant they were going to be that tall when they grew up. I actually truly don't care how tall a man is but I do notice when I meet him if he has fibbed. Starts things off wrong if I am expecting one thing and get another. I like men who are either athletic or have a few ( a few means less than 15) extra pounds on them. I am not deep enough to wiggle on that. Most people aren't and most people know it. (If you are - awesome! Teach a class on how to be deep and I will attend). There are plenty of people who are and love to date heavy set or skinnier people. Being honest about who you are will help to avoid the hurt feelings that are likely to occur if that kind of surprise happens. Sorry if that sounds harsh but its real. Please be sure the picture you post is an accurate representation of what you look like now. If it is more than two years old or you were 10 Lbs different than your current weight have a new picture taken. This will save you money on therapy and kleenex.

Be honest about your marital status.

Really. If you are married at least respect your matches enough to admit that up front. Otherwise you are likely to hurt someone and that karma will bite you in the butt. Many people have very strong feelings about adultery and it is not fair to drag someone into that scenario without their permission. Personally I will not even date someone who I know has a live in girlfriend. I like me a lot and really do not like to share a man. I believe the only thing you know for sure you are getting if you sleep with someone else's spouse is a cheat. Yes, I do know I am very judgmental on this subject. I am also right. I know because I had to learn this lesson years ago, the hard way.

Admit it if you drink frequently, smoke cigarettes or do drugs.

People generally figure that kind of thing out pretty quickly and if you do those things you probably want to be with someone else who does. I do know people who only smoke when they drink or if they are out on the town. Generally the only person who wants to kiss a frequent smoker is another smoker. So if you are thinking about quitting go for it but until you do - fess up.

Post respectable photos

Even if you are built like a god or goddess do not post pictures of yourself naked. If you post that kind of photo and you are not built like a greek statue we will send you a terse email and be annoyed. In both cases we will delete your picture for lacking class.

Yes it is obvious that you had your arm around your ex in that picture even though they are now cut out. Lame. Don't do it.

Don't embarrass yourself by posting a picture of yourself looking drunk or stoned. Not even people who like to get drunk and stoned want to date someone who would post that picture. Believe it or not, it will probably not show you in the best light if you look like you have just been hitting the bong while knocking back shots of tequila. I am not telling you not to do those things just have the good sense not to post the picture the bar tender took of you and your friends when you did it. If this information surprises you please put the bong down immediately.

Do not take a picture of yourself in the mirror. Especially don't take a picture in the bathroom mirror. It's beyond cheesy and implies that not even your neighbor likes you enough to snap a quick shot for you. Don't hold your arm out and take one that way either. It will make your nose look huge. Find a friend and have them take a picture of you, tip a waiter to do it or see if your postal worker is up for the job.

Show your face. Big sunglasses and a baseball cap don't say "movie star" they say "married weasel", "witness protection program" or way older than my profile says I am. None of those will help you get a date.

and finally. . .

If you are funny and you know it . . .

Write it down. Avoid being crass or offensive but put your own humorous bent on things. Seriously, everyone likes to laugh so if you are able to say things that make yourself or your friends laugh use that humor in your profile. That way everyone who reads your profile at least gets to smile and there is a lot to be said for simply adding to someone's day by making them grin!

Now go have fun out there!