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There is one group of people for whom flirting comes naturally. Without making any really big effort the ability to attract the interest of another person comes easily. Wondering who these people are? Who the ability to flirt comes easiest to? Supermodels? Harvard Graduates? Professional Athletes? Nope.

Babies.

Yep, that’s right - babies. How many times have you heard a mother say “ooh look he is flirting with you” sounding all gushy and proud? That is because babies know instinctively what grownups often forget. Flirting is about making another person feel interesting. Flirting isn’t about sex. When a toddler is sitting high-chair bound in a restaurant, if they smile at us and wave, most of us can’t help but smile and wave back. Why? Because they are delightful.

A baby can be sitting there with a full diaper, half a plate of spaghetti on their head all the while looking like a tiny version of Winston Churchill; but, when they smile at us we light up. For two reasons; first because babies are born liking themselves exactly how they are. It takes a while to learn to be self conscious about your appearance or start to become insecure about your personality. We generally start out secure that the world will accept us.

Secondly because a baby automatically assumes you are fun and interesting. That is the basic premise of flirting. Assuming the other person is interesting and that you will like them. If you ignore them and don’t respond to their attention it is unlikely that a baby will take it to heart, have a bad day, kick their dog or need a couple hours with a therapist. Odds are the little genius will simply look around to see who else is within eye shot and start flirting with them. Babies don’t take your reaction personally unless it’s a positive one because they are brilliant little drool factories!

Okay, so unlike a baby you are probably not cute with a head full of spaghetti and a load in your pants. So how do you use what babies have to teach us? You probably already do. People flirt with each other all day long without realizing that is what they are doing. How many times have you walked up to a person of the same sex at a social event or public place and commented on something you like about them? For women it’s often a hairstyle, handbag or pair of shoes. With men it can be a golf swing, a tie or a car. Obviously the list is long and varied but the point is that complimenting someone is flirting. So I will say it again. Flirting isn’t about sex. It’s about making the other person feel interesting, well received and even liked right out of the starting gate. Bet you just realized you are better at flirting than you thought, huh?

So how do you implement this new found insight with the opposite sex? Simple, try it. Next time you are near one, give them a sincere compliment randomly. The grocery store is a great place to get some practice because food is easy to work with. I check out their cart and see if they have something I like or something I know I should be eating. And then I SMILE and say something like “Obviously you have good taste if you like Carmel Cone Ice Cream. It’s one of my favorites!” or “Wow your mom must be proud of you with all those veggies in that cart!” Either way I have told them that I think they are making good choices.

Who doesn’t want to feel like they are doing the right thing? At a bar or party I go with a sincere compliment such as “You are so lucky to have such thick (or wavy or healthy) hair!” or “That is a great color on you!” You will notice the theme is always a SINCERE compliment. People tend to pick up on insincere compliments and understandably get defensive. It’s hard to come back from that so don’t set yourself up to have to defend a fib. I have seen that get all kinds of ugly. Go with a smile and the truth!

You might be thinking that there is a lot more to flirting than this. Nope, this is it. It is that simple. Flirting is simply the art of making another person feel liked and appreciated. It’s easy and you have probably been doing it all day long without even knowing that is what you were doing. If you are looking for more I am guessing you’re wanting to know the art of Seduction. For that you need to read How to Seduce by sign.

Now get out there and start flirting!